WEBVTT 00:00:05.220 --> 00:00:09.000 Paisley: Hi everybody, Paisley imperfect here with another 00:00:09.120 --> 00:00:16.980 message last time, or the time before last or last message was 00:00:16.980 --> 00:00:21.840 our makeup plan Monday yesterday. Thursday's message we 00:00:21.840 --> 00:00:27.000 talked about President Nelson's talk a pledge my sister's, as an 00:00:27.030 --> 00:00:31.980 all of the all of the different things in that talk that we can 00:00:31.980 --> 00:00:39.150 work on to become the the women that we the the best version of 00:00:39.150 --> 00:00:46.080 ourselves. I shared a slide deck that I had created, that showed 00:00:46.110 --> 00:00:48.930 seven different things for us to work on. And then all of these 00:00:48.930 --> 00:00:51.540 little subcategories within those seven things, right. 00:00:52.380 --> 00:00:57.000 As I was preparing for today, I started trying to figure out 00:00:57.000 --> 00:00:59.550 which one of those things I wanted to tackle first, there 00:00:59.550 --> 00:01:08.490 are quite a few of the things on that list. I want to work on. I 00:01:09.300 --> 00:01:13.680 want to improve myself. And so I was having trouble trying to 00:01:13.680 --> 00:01:16.800 decide which one of these seven things I want to work on. And 00:01:16.800 --> 00:01:20.430 then within those seven things, like what's the one thing that I 00:01:20.430 --> 00:01:25.080 want to that I want to get started with? And so I had the 00:01:25.080 --> 00:01:29.520 thought, just start looking. Okay. All right. So I went back 00:01:29.520 --> 00:01:32.610 to the slide deck, and I was looking at the slides again. And 00:01:32.610 --> 00:01:35.700 it was like, well, I could talk about love, I could talk about 00:01:35.700 --> 00:01:38.820 happiness, we could talk about being articulate, we could talk 00:01:38.820 --> 00:01:46.830 about all of these things and make an episode or two about 00:01:46.830 --> 00:01:51.690 every single one of these things. And so that wasn't 00:01:51.690 --> 00:01:56.940 working, it wasn't narrowing it down for me. And so then I had 00:01:56.940 --> 00:02:01.200 the thought, again, keep poking, like start poking around. 00:02:02.110 --> 00:02:05.200 Okay, so I went to the church's website, and I just typed in a 00:02:05.200 --> 00:02:07.570 little search bar, a plea to my sisters, because I was like, 00:02:07.570 --> 00:02:11.290 well, I'll go back to the original talk and see, see if 00:02:11.290 --> 00:02:15.520 anything just jumps out at me, right. So I typed in the search 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:19.510 bar appear to my sisters and hit enter. And then there was this 00:02:19.540 --> 00:02:24.940 sub one that came up that that said, the vital role of women. 00:02:25.120 --> 00:02:28.810 And I was like, Oh, what's that? And so I clicked on it. And it's 00:02:28.810 --> 00:02:34.840 a whole landing page, about the role of women, what our role is 00:02:34.840 --> 00:02:39.070 and how important we are in this. They call it the winding 00:02:39.070 --> 00:02:43.720 up scene. They President Nelson calls it the winding up scene 00:02:44.050 --> 00:02:48.220 where you know, we're getting close to the Second Coming and 00:02:48.250 --> 00:02:50.980 this is the time this is the time to be sharing the gospel 00:02:50.980 --> 00:02:54.220 and, and gathering the house of Israel. Right. 00:02:55.270 --> 00:03:00.880 And so I just stumbled on this landing page. There are six 00:03:00.880 --> 00:03:07.150 talks on here. Two of them are President Nelson. And then 00:03:07.150 --> 00:03:11.740 there's elder Ballard, Elder Christofferson, and then there 00:03:11.740 --> 00:03:15.730 are two in here from two sisters sister Jean be bringing him 00:03:15.940 --> 00:03:19.150 united in accomplishing God's work. And then there's another 00:03:19.150 --> 00:03:22.510 one sister Sharon Eubank turn on your light. And I vaguely 00:03:22.510 --> 00:03:26.290 remember the one from SR ubank. And so I was like, I think I've 00:03:26.290 --> 00:03:29.710 read that one. And so I clicked on it. And I had some notes in 00:03:29.710 --> 00:03:33.460 there. But as I read it again, I was like, Yes, this is what I 00:03:33.460 --> 00:03:34.330 want to talk about. 00:03:35.620 --> 00:03:41.950 To be fair, to be clear, I don't know to be fair, to be clear, to 00:03:41.950 --> 00:03:48.250 be clearly fair. There's more stuff in here. I ended up adding 00:03:48.250 --> 00:03:53.140 another thing to the slide deck. There are cuz she gives us some 00:03:53.140 --> 00:03:56.650 things that we can work on too. So let's just talk about it. She 00:03:56.650 --> 00:04:00.430 starts talking she quote she she she uses the same quote that 00:04:00.790 --> 00:04:03.460 from President Kimball that President Nelson uses in his 00:04:03.460 --> 00:04:06.910 talk a pleading my sisters, talking about how in the last 00:04:06.910 --> 00:04:10.450 days the women will be responsible for a lot of the 00:04:10.450 --> 00:04:15.460 growth that comes to the church. He ends the quote by saying that 00:04:15.460 --> 00:04:17.860 this will happen to the degree that women of the church are 00:04:17.860 --> 00:04:20.380 seen as distinct and different and happy ways from women for 00:04:20.380 --> 00:04:23.710 the world. And that's where President Nelson stopped quoting 00:04:23.710 --> 00:04:26.590 President Kimball sister Eubank takes it a little bit further 00:04:26.590 --> 00:04:31.030 and she says, among the real heroines in the world, sorry, 00:04:31.150 --> 00:04:33.580 she didn't say this. She's quoting President Kimball. 00:04:34.150 --> 00:04:37.810 He said, among the real heroines in the world who will come into 00:04:37.810 --> 00:04:40.180 the church are women who are more concerned with being 00:04:40.180 --> 00:04:44.440 righteous than with being selfish. These real heroines 00:04:44.440 --> 00:04:48.910 have true humility, which places a higher value on integrity than 00:04:48.910 --> 00:04:52.870 visibility. It will be female exemplars of the church who will 00:04:52.870 --> 00:04:56.680 be a significant force in both the numerical and the spiritual 00:04:56.680 --> 00:05:01.630 growth of the church in the last days. I love the rest of that 00:05:01.630 --> 00:05:04.690 quote. And as I'm reading it now, I'm like, Why didn't I just 00:05:04.690 --> 00:05:09.730 go to President Kimball's original talk? That has so turns 00:05:09.730 --> 00:05:12.700 out his wife actually delivered it for him that night because he 00:05:12.700 --> 00:05:15.910 was in the hospital. But why don't I just go back to his 00:05:15.910 --> 00:05:19.510 original talk and look at the whole thing. So I'm going to put 00:05:19.510 --> 00:05:21.460 that on my list. And we're going to do that soon. 00:05:22.630 --> 00:05:27.880 Anyway, so she summarizes it, she summarizes it in three 00:05:27.880 --> 00:05:31.450 bullets. The first one she talks about is that the this is all 00:05:31.450 --> 00:05:35.740 going to be triggered by the relationships that we build with 00:05:36.010 --> 00:05:40.090 other women of other faiths. And she doesn't just limit it to 00:05:40.090 --> 00:05:44.860 grownups. This in the second bullet point, she says, the 00:05:44.860 --> 00:05:48.190 friendships that Relief Society women, young women and primary 00:05:48.190 --> 00:05:52.720 girls build with sincere, faithful, godly women and girls 00:05:52.720 --> 00:05:56.650 of other faiths and beliefs will be a significant force and how 00:05:56.650 --> 00:05:58.330 the church grows in the last days. 00:05:59.380 --> 00:06:03.640 So number one, is the triggering of this growth of the church or 00:06:03.670 --> 00:06:06.820 is the relationships that we build with women, not of our 00:06:06.820 --> 00:06:13.570 faith. And then what will continue that is how we 00:06:13.570 --> 00:06:20.860 strengthen those relationships. And then the last one is these 00:06:20.860 --> 00:06:23.170 women that are going to come into the church because we've 00:06:23.170 --> 00:06:25.900 built the relationships with them, and we've invited and 00:06:26.230 --> 00:06:31.720 they've accepted and they've come those women, many of them 00:06:31.720 --> 00:06:34.930 will be the hair, the true heroines, because they will come 00:06:34.930 --> 00:06:38.890 in, and they will teach us that it's more important that 00:06:38.890 --> 00:06:42.970 integrity is more valuable than visibility. And they will be 00:06:42.970 --> 00:06:44.980 more concerned with being righteous than with being 00:06:44.980 --> 00:06:48.730 selfish. And those are things that we need to learn. I thought 00:06:48.730 --> 00:06:49.660 that was interesting. 00:06:50.470 --> 00:06:54.730 So then she talks about these five things, that President 00:06:54.730 --> 00:07:00.220 Kimball refers to five things that we can work on, in order to 00:07:00.220 --> 00:07:03.100 help us grow these relationships, begin these 00:07:03.100 --> 00:07:06.730 relationships and grow these relationships. The first thing 00:07:06.730 --> 00:07:13.240 she says is, so number one is the first is to be righteous. I 00:07:13.240 --> 00:07:16.750 like that she qualifies this, she says being righteous doesn't 00:07:16.750 --> 00:07:22.150 mean being perfect, or never making mistakes. I've never 00:07:22.180 --> 00:07:27.580 actually looked up the definition of righteous it. In 00:07:27.580 --> 00:07:31.540 today's world, I think it's more associated with being self 00:07:31.540 --> 00:07:35.260 righteous. And so it has kind of a negative connotation, at least 00:07:35.260 --> 00:07:40.330 for me, has a little bit of a, an arrogant connotation attached 00:07:40.330 --> 00:07:45.010 to it. And so I've always just kind of been like, like 00:07:45.040 --> 00:07:51.190 righteous, okay. But I love what she says being righteous doesn't 00:07:51.190 --> 00:07:53.680 mean being perfect or never making mistakes. It means 00:07:53.680 --> 00:07:57.460 developing an inner connection with God, repenting of our sins 00:07:57.520 --> 00:08:03.430 and mistakes, and freely helping others. That sounds doable, 00:08:03.550 --> 00:08:09.430 right? Developing an inner connection with God, repenting 00:08:09.430 --> 00:08:14.230 of our sins and mistakes, and freely helping others. And you 00:08:14.230 --> 00:08:16.810 may remember from that slide deck that we looked at 00:08:17.110 --> 00:08:20.590 selflessly serving others is one of those things that one of the 00:08:20.590 --> 00:08:23.710 points that we want to talk about, at some point. 00:08:24.400 --> 00:08:27.580 And then she talks about women who have repented, and how 00:08:27.580 --> 00:08:30.940 they've changed the course of history. She has a friend that 00:08:30.940 --> 00:08:34.960 she talks about here. It's a great story, you should go look 00:08:34.960 --> 00:08:38.890 that up. The second point, so that's the first point that she 00:08:38.890 --> 00:08:42.370 talks about, that President Kimball gives to us, right, 00:08:42.400 --> 00:08:43.780 number one is to be righteous. 00:08:44.170 --> 00:08:46.930 Number two is to be articulate. So there's that word again, 00:08:46.930 --> 00:08:51.040 articulate. And I, I know that this is something that I need to 00:08:51.040 --> 00:08:54.490 work on, and I'm kind of excited. I'm not going to share 00:08:54.490 --> 00:08:57.040 a whole bunch of what she shares about being articulate right now 00:08:57.040 --> 00:09:00.340 because I want to use it later. I think I've got at least an 00:09:00.340 --> 00:09:03.850 episode, if not two, about being articulate what that means and 00:09:03.850 --> 00:09:08.470 how we can work on that. But I will say that she summarizes it 00:09:08.470 --> 00:09:11.860 by saying being being articulate means to clearly express how you 00:09:11.860 --> 00:09:16.210 feel about something and why. clearly express how you feel 00:09:16.210 --> 00:09:21.760 about something and why. And she gives them questions. And if you 00:09:21.760 --> 00:09:24.310 want to go look them up you can. I will use the questions on 00:09:24.310 --> 00:09:27.040 another episode when we when we talk about being articulate. 00:09:27.820 --> 00:09:30.580 The third thing that she talks about is to be different. And 00:09:30.580 --> 00:09:36.010 she gives a story in this one about something that happened on 00:09:36.010 --> 00:09:41.740 the beach in Panama City, Florida in 2017, July 2017. 00:09:42.610 --> 00:09:46.180 There was a mom on the beach with her two sons, and she 00:09:46.180 --> 00:09:51.070 noticed that they were about 100 yards out and they had gotten 00:09:51.070 --> 00:09:54.910 caught in a rip current and they were struggling and screaming 00:09:54.910 --> 00:09:55.510 for help. 00:09:55.000 --> 00:09:57.850 A couple nearby tried to jump in and rescue them. them and they 00:09:57.850 --> 00:09:59.410 got caught in the rip current. Some other family members jumped 00:09:59.410 --> 00:10:01.270 in and tried to help them all out and they got caught in the 00:10:01.270 --> 00:10:06.790 rip currents. So now there are nine people who are caught in 00:10:06.790 --> 00:10:15.160 the rip current. And the police have like sent for a rescue 00:10:15.160 --> 00:10:18.100 boat. There's no ropes, there's no lifeguards, just a whole 00:10:18.100 --> 00:10:21.700 bunch of people on the beach. People jumping in and getting 00:10:21.700 --> 00:10:25.570 caught in the rip current, we're up to nine people. And then this 00:10:25.570 --> 00:10:31.690 woman, her name was Jessica May Simmons. And her husband had 00:10:31.690 --> 00:10:36.940 this idea. They started gathering all of these people on 00:10:36.940 --> 00:10:41.200 the beach and made a human chain out into the water. And this 00:10:41.200 --> 00:10:45.100 human chain ended up being 80 people long, there's a picture, 00:10:45.220 --> 00:10:48.610 if you want to go look at it, there's a picture of this chain. 00:10:50.170 --> 00:10:52.420 I don't know how it looks like somebody might have been on top 00:10:52.420 --> 00:10:55.480 of a pier. I've never been to Panama City Beach. I don't know 00:10:55.480 --> 00:10:57.940 if there's a pier. I don't know how somebody got this picture. 00:10:57.940 --> 00:11:00.760 But there's a picture of this 80 person chain going out into the 00:11:00.760 --> 00:11:05.080 water to try and save these nine people who are exhausted, it's 00:11:05.080 --> 00:11:08.680 been 20 minutes. And I don't know how many of you have ever 00:11:08.680 --> 00:11:11.740 been in the ocean, but to be just in the ocean, not cotton 00:11:11.740 --> 00:11:15.400 rip current for 20 minutes can be exhausting. There is a lot of 00:11:15.400 --> 00:11:19.630 back and forth and in and out and waves in movement and just a 00:11:19.630 --> 00:11:26.320 lot. And to be caught in a rip current can make it so much more 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:28.750 exhausting. So they've been out there for 20 minutes. Now 00:11:28.750 --> 00:11:32.050 there's this 80 person chain. And then Jessica and her 00:11:32.050 --> 00:11:35.770 husband, they know how to swim, they know how to get out of a 00:11:35.770 --> 00:11:39.520 rip current. And they have boogie boards. And so they take 00:11:39.520 --> 00:11:43.750 their boards out to these people and they start getting these 00:11:43.750 --> 00:11:46.900 people out of the current because they know how they start 00:11:46.900 --> 00:11:49.300 getting these people out of the current and back to the human 00:11:49.300 --> 00:11:51.820 chain. And then the human chain is getting them back to the 00:11:51.820 --> 00:11:58.060 shore. And so in case you forgot, the third is to be 00:11:58.060 --> 00:12:03.190 different. And she talks about how innovation and creation are 00:12:03.190 --> 00:12:06.130 spiritual gifts. And you know, I tagged that because I really 00:12:06.130 --> 00:12:09.700 want to come back and talk about spiritual gifts one day to which 00:12:09.700 --> 00:12:13.390 ones we know about. I'll save that for another day. But she 00:12:13.390 --> 00:12:17.740 says innovation and creation are spiritual gifts. And when all of 00:12:17.770 --> 00:12:20.410 the traditional solutions weren't working, and people were 00:12:20.410 --> 00:12:24.490 just kind of paralyzed, not knowing what to do. There was a 00:12:24.490 --> 00:12:28.030 couple there who was different and had a different solution. 00:12:29.130 --> 00:12:33.371 And then she continues that story with number four, point 00:12:33.446 --> 00:12:38.060 number four, the fourth is to be distinct. And she talks about 00:12:38.134 --> 00:12:42.599 how you know Jessica Mae is standing there on the beach, and 00:12:42.673 --> 00:12:46.990 she's like, wait, I can hold my breath. I can go around an 00:12:47.064 --> 00:12:51.752 Olympic pool with ease. I knew how to get out of a rip current. 00:12:51.827 --> 00:12:56.515 I knew I could get each swimmer to the human chain. Notice that 00:12:56.589 --> 00:13:01.129 she didn't say back to shore. She wasn't going to go into the 00:13:01.203 --> 00:13:05.817 water, get a person and bring them back to shore. But she knew 00:13:05.892 --> 00:13:10.059 she could get them to the human chain. I think that's an 00:13:10.133 --> 00:13:14.524 important. I think that's an important point. And so sister 00:13:14.598 --> 00:13:19.435 Eubank keeps going and she talks about how the restored gospel is 00:13:19.510 --> 00:13:24.198 recognizably well defined, but we have to be distinct about how 00:13:24.273 --> 00:13:28.961 we follow it. So I should have started with the fourth is to be 00:13:29.035 --> 00:13:33.500 distinct, distinct means to be recognizably well defined. So 00:13:33.575 --> 00:13:37.444 the church itself is well defined. How we follow the 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:41.761 gospel, the gospel of Jesus Christ as well defined how we 00:13:41.835 --> 00:13:46.523 follow the gospel, how we live, the Gospel, should be distinct. 00:13:46.598 --> 00:13:51.211 And when you think about it, we are all individuals, right. So 00:13:51.286 --> 00:13:55.230 to be distinct means to be recognizably well defined, 00:13:55.304 --> 00:13:59.249 doesn't say refined. It doesn't say perfect, it says, 00:13:59.323 --> 00:14:03.639 recognizably well defined. So and the other point that she 00:14:03.714 --> 00:14:08.030 makes, and I'm gonna read this last paragraph in here, the 00:14:08.104 --> 00:14:12.792 restored gospel is recognizably well defined, but we have to be 00:14:12.867 --> 00:14:17.109 distinct about how we follow it. Just as Jessica practice 00:14:17.183 --> 00:14:21.499 swimming, we need to practice living the Gospel before the 00:14:21.574 --> 00:14:26.113 emergency. So that unafraid, we will be strong enough to help 00:14:26.187 --> 00:14:29.760 when others are being swept away by the current. 00:14:29.760 --> 00:14:34.634 So maybe we are one of the 80 people in that chain. That only 00:14:34.714 --> 00:14:39.269 helps them for a second because we're holding on to other 00:14:39.349 --> 00:14:44.463 people. And our role is to just stand there and let them go past 00:14:44.543 --> 00:14:49.098 us. But we have to be standing there otherwise they can't 00:14:49.178 --> 00:14:53.573 there's a break in the chain. Sometimes we might be the 00:14:53.652 --> 00:14:58.287 Jessica's out there on the boogie board, pulling literally 00:14:58.367 --> 00:15:03.002 pulling somebody out of the current and taking them to the 00:15:03.082 --> 00:15:08.116 human chain. Sometimes we might be the person on the beach just 00:15:08.196 --> 00:15:12.511 screaming for help. But to be remarkably well defined, 00:15:12.591 --> 00:15:16.826 recognizably sorry, not remarkably, recognizably well 00:15:16.906 --> 00:15:21.701 defined. People know who we are, what we stand for, and what 00:15:21.781 --> 00:15:22.740 we're about. 00:15:22.740 --> 00:15:27.059 And then the fifth one, and this is always the clincher for me, 00:15:27.127 --> 00:15:31.309 do number one through four in happy ways. Now, we're going to 00:15:31.378 --> 00:15:34.943 talk about happiness. And another episode to finding 00:15:35.011 --> 00:15:39.262 happiness. That might be a few episodes kind of like stillness 00:15:39.330 --> 00:15:43.581 was. But I want to share this quote, because I love it, I will 00:15:43.649 --> 00:15:47.694 probably share it again. Being happy doesn't mean to slap a 00:15:47.763 --> 00:15:51.945 plastic smile on your face no matter what is going on. But it 00:15:52.013 --> 00:15:55.990 does mean keeping the laws of God and building and lifting 00:15:56.058 --> 00:16:00.377 others. When we build, we lift the burden of others, it blesses 00:16:00.446 --> 00:16:03.600 our lives in ways our trials cannot take away. 00:16:03.600 --> 00:16:08.500 So being happy, doesn't mean being fake. Being happy, is 00:16:08.587 --> 00:16:13.837 helping others. Keeping the laws of God building and lifting 00:16:13.925 --> 00:16:18.825 others, keeping our covenants, doing the things that our 00:16:18.912 --> 00:16:24.162 heavenly father would have us do, so that he can give us the 00:16:24.250 --> 00:16:29.850 blessings that he's promised if we do. That's what happiness is. 00:16:29.850 --> 00:16:33.389 I just found this talk to be really interesting, very 00:16:33.455 --> 00:16:37.262 enlightening. And I added a couple of things to the slide 00:16:37.328 --> 00:16:41.402 deck. So we'll talk about in other episodes, we'll talk about 00:16:41.469 --> 00:16:45.342 being articulate. We'll talk about gifts of the Spirit, we 00:16:45.408 --> 00:16:49.281 will probably talk about being different and distinct. And 00:16:49.348 --> 00:16:52.954 we'll talk about love, happiness, all of those things. 00:16:53.021 --> 00:16:56.894 We will get to all of those things. If you have an idea or 00:16:56.961 --> 00:17:01.234 if you have one that you'd like to study first, let me know. I'd 00:17:01.301 --> 00:17:02.370 love to hear it. 00:17:02.370 --> 00:17:05.584 I appreciate you being here. I know that there are plenty of 00:17:05.637 --> 00:17:08.958 other places that you could be. So I appreciate you being here 00:17:09.012 --> 00:17:12.494 with me and learning right along with me. I'm grateful for Sister 00:17:12.548 --> 00:17:15.869 Eubank and the time and effort that she put into this talk and 00:17:15.922 --> 00:17:18.922 encourage you to go read the whole thing. It's worth the 00:17:18.976 --> 00:17:21.976 read. I'll make sure that the Link gets put in the video 00:17:22.029 --> 00:17:24.119 description. Thanks so much, everybody.