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Paisley: Hi, everybody, Paisley
imperfect again. And today I

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want to talk about something
that I mean, frankly, I'm not

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very good at. It's something
that I've wanted to be good at

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for a long time. I'm just not
very good at it. I want to talk

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about setting goals.

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Bear with me for a minute, don't
cringe don't leave.

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I think. So for me. I remember
them teaching us early on, in

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like my young women's classes,
right? Personal progress was all

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about was all about progressing
personally. That's why it was

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called personal progress. It was
about setting goals and

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achieving the goals and how to
set goals and how to move

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forward with your goals. And so
I remember just kind of being in

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young women's and having people
be like, well, what are your

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goals for the year and just
being like, yeah, I don't, I

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don't know. And having my
leaders encouraged me to set

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goals. And the program even had
some already pre made goals for

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me, right? I don't remember
exactly what they were. But

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there were a couple of things
that you should do under every

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value, every one of the young
woman values, there were a

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couple of pre written goals,
things that you could achieve

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and work on. And those were
awesome. Those are easy. Those

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were things that I could, or not
all of them were easy, but they

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were things that I could check
off.

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But when it came to creating my
own and setting my own goals, I

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always felt like setting my
goals. I always felt like my

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goals were dependent on someone
else. And that was always really

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frustrating because I just
didn't feel like I felt like if

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I had to count on somebody else,
it was gonna fail. And I think

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I'm afraid of failure. I don't
like to fail. It sucks. I don't

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like the way it makes me feel.

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And then, years ago, my husband
was Scoutmaster in our ward for

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like eight years. And he came
across this way of goal setting

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within the Boy Scout
organization called SMART goals.

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And I remember him sharing them
with me and being super excited

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about it. Because I don't think
the neither one of us were super

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good at setting goals and then
following through with them.

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Also, the writing it down part
just makes it a little too.

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Maybe it's a little too real. It
definitely makes me accountable.

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And assuming I can actually find
where I wrote it down at the end

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of the year, or at the end of
the term for which I have set

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the goal. Assuming I can find
where I wrote it down. It sets a

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level of expectation of myself.
Did I actually do it? Did I

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follow through?

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So anyway, I've never been
really good at it. But as I've

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been thinking more and more
about the things that I want to

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accomplish, the things that I'm
hoping that we are accomplishing

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together, I've been thinking
more along the lines of a SMART

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goal, I need something
measurable, how am I going to

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know that I'm getting better at
finding happiness? How am I

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going to know that I am getting
better? Or that I'm becoming

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more like my savior? How am I
going to know these things? And

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so I started thinking about
that. And I did a quick search

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for some quotes on the church's
website about setting goals. And

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I came across some really
interesting stuff I've got, I've

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got a few that I'll share today,
I came across some really

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interesting things that I want
to share. The first one being

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from elder Packer. So quick
confession and a little bit of a

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tangent.

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I don't know about you, but I
frequently. I think I take for

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granted the apostles and the
prophets that we have until

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they're gone. So President
Packer I remember as a young

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adult, every time he would speak
in conference, I would just be

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like, Oh, because I never felt
like I understood what he was

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saying. It wasn't until he
passed away and I got smarter

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that I started to truly
understand what he was saying

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some of the things that he was
saying he was an educator, his

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whole life. He was an educator.
And so he was it was always

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about teaching somebody that
also made him really smart and

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he used words that were too big
for my little brain. And so I

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had just had a really hard time
understanding him but what He

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said He said this in 1986
actually in a talk called Little

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children, he said true doctrine,
understood, changes attitudes

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and behavior. And there's
another famous quote from him in

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that talk that I'll let you go
find yourself. But it has to do

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with. It has to do with. Studies
have behavior.

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Anyway, it's super interesting,
true doctrine, understood

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changes attitudes and behavior.
And so when I read that, in

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relation to setting goals, I was
like, oh, so my goal is to

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understand true doctrine, so
that it can change my attitude,

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and change my behavior. Because
if I change my attitude, that's

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when I start to find happiness.
And when I change my behavior,

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that's when other people start
to find happiness, or that's how

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I help them find happiness.

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And then I started thinking
about the SMART goals again, and

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I was like, okay, so how do I
write a SMART goal? And I'll get

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into a little bit more detail on
what a SMART goal is? How do I

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write a SMART goal that will
push me to understand true

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doctrine? How do I write a SMART
goal? So I went and I looked,

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just to give myself a refresher
on what a SMART goal is. And

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SMART is an acronym. It stands
for specific, measurable,

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achievable, relevant, and time
bound.

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So sorry, another tangent, just
things as they're popping into

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my brain. I've tried setting
goals in lots of different ways.

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As a professional I've set
goals, I've set SMART goals.

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I've tried KPIs. KPI stands for
key, key performance indicator.

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I've tried OKRs objectives and
key results. And all these three

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different ways. And I'm sure
that there have been more, these

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three different ways of goal
setting of these three different

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ways. SMART goals seems to be
the one that works the best for

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me. OKRs, I always felt like
that objective was just a little

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too far outside of my reach. And
for me, that's not motivating.

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If I know I'm not going to
achieve the goal, I'm not going

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to try. It's a it's a useless
goal for me.

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It's not that way for everybody
else. So if you would rather go

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with an OKR, or a KPI, by all
means, please go with it. The

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point is, when you set a goal,
you have to be able to measure

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it. Because if you can't measure
it, how do you know if you've

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achieved it? If there's no
indicator, if there's no key

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results, if there's no
measurable? How do you know when

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you're done? How do you know
that you got where you were

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trying to go? So whichever
method works best for you, by

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all means, please use that
method. For me, I'm gonna go

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with the SMART goals.

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So smart, again, specific,
measurable, achievable,

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relevant, and time bound. So the
time bound thing is kind of what

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gets me right, like, specific,
some of the questions that you

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can ask yourself, so is my goal
specific. My goal, true doctrine

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understood changes attitudes and
behavior. There's kind of a

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great big goal in there, right
to change my attitude and change

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my behavior. And in order to do
that, I need to understand true

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doctrine.

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Now, if I'm going to get
specific in my goals, some of

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the questions that I can ask
myself, what exactly do I want

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or need to accomplish?

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Exactly.

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What I need to accomplish
exactly, is to understand true

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doctrine. That's still a little
too vague for me. What true

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doctrine am I talking about?
What true doctrine was President

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Packer talking about?

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So then, here's our next quote.
This one's from President Luke,

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dwarf. Small, steady,
incremental changes are the

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steps that lead to monumental
achievements. Okay, so I'm gonna

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break down this smart goal, a
little bit more true doctrine,

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understood changes attitudes and
behavior, understand true

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doctrine, to understand true
doctrine. I need to figure out

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what it is first, what is the
doctrine that I'm trying to

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understand? We've been talking
about this for a few weeks, and

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this, this doctrine or these
concepts, so doctrine and

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concepts are not the same thing.
We're getting into some

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technical hair splitting here.
true doctrine. Doctrine is the

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How do I define this? How do I
define doctrine? Doctrine is the

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gospel of Jesus Christ is at its
most basic form. Love God, Love

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your neighbor, the 10
commandments, the word of

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wisdom. These are the doctrines.
Now when I was teaching seminary

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years and years ago, we were
talking about principles and

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principle was the application of
doctrine. So if and we would

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package is, it was the it was
the doctrine package for

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application that was the term
that we used. So if a principle

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is doctrine package for
application, then we would take

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our seminary students through
and say, If then, so if I pick a

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commandment, if I tell the
truth, Thou shalt not lie,

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right? If I tell the truth, then
I earn people's trust. So that's

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the doctrine package for
application. In my case, I'm

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trying to understand this true
doctrine. So I'm trying to

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understand the importance of in
this hypothetical, or in this

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example that we're using, I'm
trying to understand the

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importance of telling the truth,
being honest, having integrity.

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And according to President
Uchtdorf, if I take small,

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steady, incremental changes
towards that, towards that goal,

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getting closer and closer to
truly understanding that piece

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of doctrine, then I can get to a
monumental achievement, which is

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to understand that true piece of
doctrine.

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Elder Renlund said, God cares a
lot more about who we are, and

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about who we are becoming than
about who we once were. So I'm

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taking president of dwarf small
and steady incremental changes

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lead to monumental achievements.
I'm taking interesting elder

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Renlund, that God cares more
about who and becoming than

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about where I've been.

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And now, I'm going to, I'm going
to show you this one from Joseph

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Wirthlin, Joseph B. Wirthlin,
another apostle, I did not fully

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appreciate until it was too
late. He said, We must be

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willing to let go of the life we
have planned so as to have the

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life that is waiting for us. So
how does this all work together?

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Let me come back to these smart
goals. Specific, understand true

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doctrine, one piece at a time.
In order for me to do that, I

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need to so here are some more
questions under specific,

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exactly what do you want or need
to accomplish? We talked about

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that I want to understand true
doctrine. What will be the

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outcome?

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That one stumps me a little bit?
Still, if I'm being completely

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honest, what will be the outcome
of me understanding true

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doctrine? It doesn't stop me
because President Packer already

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told me my attitude and my
behavior will change. So that

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will be the outcome.

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what will success look like?
Success will feel like inner

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peace, that stillness that we
were talking about throughout

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the month of June.

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When do you want to accomplish
that? Now we're getting more

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into timely, right, timely and
measurable. So let's hold off on

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that one.

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Excuse me, why is this something
that you want to accomplish? And

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why is it important? I want to
understand through doctrine,

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because I want to find that I
want to find and have that

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happiness in my life. And I want
that for my daughters. I want

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for them to be able to
understand and see that true

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happiness comes through our
willingness to follow our

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Heavenly Father, and try and
become more like our Savior. It

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doesn't mean that things are
gonna be easy. It doesn't mean

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that things are that your trials
are gonna go away. We just

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talked about that the other day,
right? Our trials aren't gonna

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go away. But we can find pieces
of happiness and feel connected

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to our Savior. And that's where
joy and peace comes from. Okay,

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so those that's the specific
What about measurable, by what

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date, will you accomplish your
goal? I think I'm gonna have to

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break down the goals a little
bit more. In order to truly say

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that. We were let's see,
happiness was one we talked

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about that the other day. I
don't know that I truly fully

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understand that little piece of
doctrine yet.

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There are More. So let's say for
a second that I was going to

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take on the importance of
telling the truth. I'm not. But

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to continue on with our
hypothetical example. Let's say

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that that was the case. So by
what date do I want to

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accomplish, truly understanding,
telling the truth? Well, by the

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end of kindergarten, I would
hope that was like 100 years ago

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in a completely different
lifetime. So let's say, I feel

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like I'm getting through little
pieces of doctrine a little bit

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faster. And honestly, this is
also why I struggle. This is why

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I struggle with setting goals,
because I can say that I want to

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understand the true doctrine of
being honest and having

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integrity i want to i, I can say
that I want to understand that

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by the end of the calendar year,
right, December 31, I want to

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understand that.

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And by December 31, I will have
read lots of articles about

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telling the truth, I will have
read different research studies

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about the effect on the brain
of, you know, the, between the

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difference of telling the truth
and telling a lie, I may have

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studied lie detector tests and
how they work. And like all of

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these other things I could have
started, I could study in the

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next five months, six months.
But and so I will have learned

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so much and have gotten so much
closer.

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But this is a lifelong pursuit.
So how can I say that I'm done?

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This is why I struggle setting
goals.

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How will you know when the goal
has been accomplished? Is there

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a specific metric or number you
want or need to meet? And how

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will you measure progress or
success? So can I measure

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success differently than saying,
I know everything there is to

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know about telling the truth, I
think I can.

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I think instead of setting a
goal to say I am going to

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understand everything there is
to know about telling the truth

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between now and the end of
December. Instead of instead of

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wording the goal that way, maybe
what we do is say I am going to

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study the importance of telling
the truth between now and the

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end of December. And by that
time, I want to have learned I

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want to have learned more about
lie detector tests and how they

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work. I'm totally making this
up.

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So between now and the end of
December, that's my goal. That's

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how much more specific and
granular we're getting. So and

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then, going back to President
Uchtdorf, small and steady,

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incremental changes are the
steps that will lead to

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monumental achievements, if I
continue to study. And I

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continue to pursue that for the
next six months, and then hold

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myself accountable at the end of
December to go back and say I

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learned all of this stuff. And
I'm so much more knowledgeable

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about it, and then updating the
goal, instead of checking it

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off.

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Maybe that's it. Maybe that's
why I'm not such a good goal

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setter. Because I feel like I
have to check the box at the end

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of the goal, in order for in
order for it to be considered

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successful. Maybe instead of
checking the box, it's more of a

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progress report. It's more of a
progress review of my own. Let's

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find out. So smart goals against
specific measurable The next one

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is achievable. What exactly do
you do you need to be able to

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achieve the goal? Do you have
the skills that you need? Do you

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have the time? Do you have
access to the resources that you

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need? Do you have the support
that you need? On a scale of one

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to 10? How confident I love this
question on a scale of one to 10

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How confident are you in your
ability to achieve this goal?

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And is this goal achievable
given the non negotiable daily

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demands of your role?

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Those are a lot of questions
that frankly, have discouraged

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me in the past. But I think what
this new found, yes, these are

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lifelong pursuits. And I don't
have to measure success by a

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great big, fat green checkmark.
I can measure success by

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reviewing the things that I've
learned in the last six months.

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I think we might be onto
something maybe I won't be so so

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bad at setting goals. Relevant.
Okay. So smart, Specific,

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Measurable, Achievable,
Relevant. I also saw another

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post that changed relevant to
realistic? And I kind of I like

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that. So between relevant and
realistic, why is the goal

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important to accomplish? We kind
of talked about that under

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specific, like, why is this
important to me? Right? Is the

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goal worthwhile? Or are you just
spinning your wheels? If so, if

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if the goal is worthwhile, why?
How does the goal contribute to

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the success of yourself? Or your
team? In my case, my family?

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Does the goal align with the
goals of your family? And why?

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Why are you working on it now?
Is this the right time to work

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on this particular goal?

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I have a lot of thoughts
floating around in my head. I'm

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trying to decide which goal I
want to start with first,

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because my goal is something
that I will likely be sharing

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with you, my progress will be
something that I'm sharing with

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you. And so I'm trying to decide
I'm trying to figure out what

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that goal is going to look like,
if I'm going to understand true

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doctrine. How many of these
specific goals do I need to set

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for myself?

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I know, see, this is why I am
not good at setting goals. I

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achieve things. They just aren't
specific.

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And then the last one, the tee,
time bound, how much time do you

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need to accomplish the goal? And
this is something that I

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appreciate with smart goals
versus OKRs and KPIs. How much

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time do you need versus this is
how much time you have? Also

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asking yourself in this way, how
much time do you need? It gives

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you the freedom to get towards
the end of that timeframe and be

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like, Oh, I think I need a
little bit more time for that.

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Here's the thing that we have to
be careful of, oh, I think I

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need a little bit more time for
that gives us an excuse not to

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work on it. If we, whereas if we
set a timeline, if we said, If

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we set a due date for ourselves,
then we know we have to

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accomplish it by that date. And
so we push ourselves towards

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that date. So we're gonna have
to be a little bit careful with

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that. I need a little bit more
time. And here's why. And then

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be honest with ourselves about
about those wise, I need more

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time because it ended up maybe
we go back to that irrelevant

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question. It ended up not really
aligning with the goals of my

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family right now. I had to
adjust partway through the year.

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Because this happened. Excuse
me. I had to adjust partway

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through the year because we had
something happened in the

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family. Or is it more like I had
to adjust partway through the

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year because I got lazy. Like,
Heavenly Father, there's a there

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was another. This one's from
President Monson. He said, this

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was in 2006, in a talk called
the joy of the Lord is your

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strength. He said, The Lord
expects us to accomplish

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something.

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I'm just gonna go with that
simple phrase, that simple

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sentence, The Lord expects us to
accomplish something. So when we

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think about our timeframe, in
relation to that, that

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statement, also knowing that our
Heavenly Father loves us and our

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Savior loves us. And they know
what our efforts have been.

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We've been talking, we've talked
about effort. We've talked about

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how the Lord loves effort. And
so we need to not shortchange

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our effort while also not
excusing ourselves, for being

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lazy. There's a fine line in
there. But as humans, we have

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the capacity to hold ourselves
accountable.

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By what date do you want to
accomplish accomplish the goal?

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Is that realistic? If not, what
timeframe would be more

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realistic? So think about it
that way? How when would you

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like to have accomplished the
goal? Can you do it by that

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amount of time? Do you need to
give yourself a little bit more

00:24:20.680 --> 00:24:24.010
time or as you're working
towards your goal? Maybe you

00:24:24.010 --> 00:24:26.500
realize that you're getting
through it faster? Maybe you're

00:24:26.500 --> 00:24:29.800
getting to it faster, because
it's really interesting. And you

00:24:29.800 --> 00:24:32.260
just want to keep reading about
that one topic or you just want

00:24:32.260 --> 00:24:34.540
to keep learning about that one
thing or you just want to finish

00:24:34.540 --> 00:24:39.520
that one project. That's fine,
too. Working through it faster.

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We got to start somewhere. When
do you want to see progress?

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What can you do today, this
week, this month, etc to to

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progress toward the goal, so
setting smaller, more easily

00:24:51.820 --> 00:24:57.340
digestible timeframes. This
isn't something that and this is

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another thing that I really like
about the SMART goals method is

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is, it's not something that you
just write down and say, I'm

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going to accomplish this by the
end of December, you write it

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down. And then you can say, my
overall goal I want to

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accomplish by the end of
December, here are the little

00:25:13.540 --> 00:25:17.800
things that I need to do to get
there, the tasks and tactics and

00:25:17.800 --> 00:25:20.260
all those other things, here are
all the things that I need to do

00:25:20.260 --> 00:25:24.520
to get there. And I want to have
each one of these done by this

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particular date, so that I can
get to my top level SMART goal.

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By the end of December, we can
break it down even further.

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Okay. I wish I had a goal to
share. But right now I only have

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why we're trying to set goals.
And just I'm going to do a quick

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review of these quotes that I
shared, I'll make sure that the

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resources and everything are
posted in the video description.

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And then these are these will
also be the posts that I put on

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Instagram and Facebook, so
you'll be able to find them

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there, too. The first one,
again, was President Packer.

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true doctrine understood changes
attitudes and behavior.

00:26:07.030 --> 00:26:10.240
President Uchtdorf, small,
steady incremental changes are

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the steps that lead to
monumental achievements.

00:26:13.420 --> 00:26:17.410
Elder Renlund, God cares a lot
more about who we are and about

00:26:17.410 --> 00:26:21.850
who we are becoming than about
who we once were. It is not too

00:26:21.850 --> 00:26:22.840
late to start.

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Elder Wirthlin we must be
willing to let go of the life we

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have planned so as to have the
life that is waiting for us.

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And then the last one, President
Monson, the Lord expects us to

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accomplish something.

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So now as you go through and
you're thinking about your your

00:26:41.760 --> 00:26:45.240
goal, maybe you are maybe you're
not. Maybe I haven't convinced

00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:47.370
you yet of the importance of
setting goals. Frankly, I'm not

00:26:47.370 --> 00:26:50.670
sure I've convinced myself.
Well, I'm gonna give it a shot.

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I hope you'll come along with
me. As we do this, I want to

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just leave with one more quote
that today's Today's episode is

00:26:59.430 --> 00:27:03.810
very, quote heavy. This one is
from President David O McKay.

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And he said, we become what we
think about.

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So maybe this week, this
weekend, if I think about being

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a goal setter, maybe I'll become
one. And then next week, we can

00:27:19.470 --> 00:27:29.220
have a goal ready and set and
and just sitting there waiting

00:27:29.220 --> 00:27:32.490
for me to accomplish it. That's
what I'm hoping for. So I'm

00:27:32.490 --> 00:27:35.490
going to think about being a
goal setter for the next Today's

00:27:35.490 --> 00:27:38.940
Thursday. So Friday, Saturday,
Sunday, I then we do our makeup

00:27:38.940 --> 00:27:42.870
plan Monday, which those are
little mini goals, right? So for

00:27:42.870 --> 00:27:46.650
the next four days, I'm going to
talk about being a goal setter.

00:27:47.130 --> 00:27:50.160
And a goal accomplished her
maybe that's better is

00:27:50.160 --> 00:27:51.210
accomplished or a word.

00:27:53.220 --> 00:27:58.200
A goal reach her. I don't know,
I don't know what the term is.

00:27:58.230 --> 00:28:01.200
I'm sure there is one. It feels
like it's right on the tip of my

00:28:01.200 --> 00:28:04.590
tongue. I want to set goals for
myself to accomplish by the end

00:28:04.590 --> 00:28:09.090
of the year. It's July, it's not
too late. Right? It's never too

00:28:09.090 --> 00:28:11.670
late. We must be willing to let
go of the life we have planned

00:28:11.670 --> 00:28:14.250
so as to have the life that is
waiting for us. It is never too

00:28:14.250 --> 00:28:18.960
late to get started. Thank you
for working this out with me.

00:28:19.170 --> 00:28:22.770
Let's go set some smart goals
and see what we can accomplish

00:28:22.770 --> 00:28:25.500
by the end of the year. I really
appreciate you being here with

00:28:25.500 --> 00:28:30.870
me. And I would I would love to
hear what your goals are. Please

00:28:30.870 --> 00:28:33.000
feel free to share them. Send
them in the comments, send them

00:28:33.000 --> 00:28:36.480
to my email, however you want to
get them to me, Facebook,

00:28:36.480 --> 00:28:38.520
Instagram, send me your goals.

00:28:39.990 --> 00:28:42.930
I'm not gonna promise to hold
you accountable to them. That's

00:28:42.930 --> 00:28:47.490
your job. But we can work on
them together. Thank you so much

00:28:47.490 --> 00:28:49.650
for being here, you guys. I
appreciate it. Enjoy the rest of

00:28:49.650 --> 00:28:50.130
your week.