WEBVTT 00:00:04.560 --> 00:00:08.349 Paisley: Hi everybody, welcome back. Paisley, imperfect hair. 00:00:08.421 --> 00:00:11.992 After I read that quote the other day from sister 00:00:12.065 --> 00:00:16.509 Nadauldstalk, the one that Elder Christofferson quoted in his 00:00:16.582 --> 00:00:21.173 talk, I decided to go back and read sister talk. I found it in 00:00:21.246 --> 00:00:25.326 the October 2000 General Conference, in case you want to 00:00:25.399 --> 00:00:29.625 go back and read it yourself, which I totally recommend. I 00:00:29.698 --> 00:00:33.997 always recommend that you read the talks yourself, and I'll 00:00:34.070 --> 00:00:38.734 make sure that there's a link in the video description. But what 00:00:38.806 --> 00:00:43.543 I liked most about the talk were the four different ways that she 00:00:43.616 --> 00:00:48.133 gave us for recognizing women who are grateful to be daughters 00:00:48.206 --> 00:00:52.505 of God. I thought that was an interesting approach, and she 00:00:52.578 --> 00:00:57.314 prefaces it with this statement. She said, our outward appearance 00:00:57.387 --> 00:01:02.051 is a reflection of what we are. On the inside, our lives reflect 00:01:02.123 --> 00:01:06.495 that for which we seek, and if, with all our hearts we truly 00:01:06.568 --> 00:01:11.159 seek to know the Savior and to be more like Him we shall be for 00:01:11.232 --> 00:01:15.166 he is our divine, eternal brother, but he is more than 00:01:15.239 --> 00:01:19.830 that. He is our precious Savior, our dear Redeemer. We ask with 00:01:19.903 --> 00:01:24.420 Alma of old, have you received his image in your countenances? 00:01:24.493 --> 00:01:28.792 And then, using these four different ways to recognize this 00:01:28.865 --> 00:01:33.383 type of a woman, the type that is grateful to be a daughter of 00:01:33.456 --> 00:01:37.536 God, she tells us what it means to have his image in our 00:01:37.609 --> 00:01:41.908 countenance. So the first thing she said, You can recognize 00:01:41.981 --> 00:01:46.572 women who are grateful to be a daughter of God by their outward 00:01:46.644 --> 00:01:50.433 appearance. These women understand their stewardship 00:01:50.506 --> 00:01:54.878 over their bodies and treat them with dignity. They care for 00:01:54.951 --> 00:01:59.250 their bodies as they would a holy temple. And I feel like I 00:01:59.323 --> 00:02:03.622 say this every episode. Listen, I am not here to judge you. 00:02:03.695 --> 00:02:08.140 That's not my job. That's not what I want to do. I'm not here 00:02:08.213 --> 00:02:12.147 to judge you and how many tattoos you have or how many 00:02:12.220 --> 00:02:16.811 earrings you're wearing in every one of your ears, or what kind 00:02:16.884 --> 00:02:21.329 of clothes you wear. You're the only one that's gonna have to 00:02:21.401 --> 00:02:25.773 answer that it's none of it's none of my business. So you go 00:02:25.846 --> 00:02:30.291 do you, and you wear whatever you want, wear as many earrings 00:02:30.364 --> 00:02:34.372 as you want, get as many tattoos. That's up to you. I'm 00:02:34.444 --> 00:02:38.889 not here to judge that you do you. She goes into more detail, 00:02:38.962 --> 00:02:43.626 but sums it up nicely with this, grateful daughters of God guard 00:02:43.698 --> 00:02:48.362 their bodies carefully, for they know they are the wellspring of 00:02:48.435 --> 00:02:52.952 life, and they reverence life. They don't uncover their bodies 00:02:53.025 --> 00:02:57.616 to find favor with the world. So in other words, if you want to 00:02:57.689 --> 00:03:02.279 be recognized as a daughter of God, dress the part. Second. You 00:03:02.352 --> 00:03:06.724 can recognize women who are grateful to be a daughter of God 00:03:06.797 --> 00:03:10.950 by their attitude. They know that the errand of angels is 00:03:11.023 --> 00:03:15.541 given to women, and they desire to be on God's errand, to love 00:03:15.614 --> 00:03:19.403 his children and minister to them, to teach them the 00:03:19.475 --> 00:03:24.139 doctrines of salvation, to call them to repentance, to save them 00:03:24.212 --> 00:03:28.729 in perilous circumstances, to guide them in the performance of 00:03:28.802 --> 00:03:32.883 his work to deliver his messages. Now, I kind of smirked 00:03:32.956 --> 00:03:37.400 a little bit when I was putting my thoughts together for this 00:03:37.473 --> 00:03:41.845 one. And my husband was like, what's that smirk on your face 00:03:41.918 --> 00:03:46.144 for? And I was like, well, because I'm reading this quote, 00:03:46.217 --> 00:03:50.881 you can recognize women who are grateful to be a daughter of God 00:03:50.953 --> 00:03:55.034 by their attitude. They know that the Aaron of angels is 00:03:55.107 --> 00:03:59.552 given to women. That's a line from as sisters in Zion, one of 00:03:59.625 --> 00:04:03.924 our hymns, right? And they desire to be on the god on God's 00:04:03.996 --> 00:04:08.514 Aaron, to love his children and minister to them, the Aaron of 00:04:08.587 --> 00:04:13.178 angels. I started thinking about the angels that we know about, 00:04:13.250 --> 00:04:17.404 right? The ministering angels, if you will, the messenger 00:04:17.477 --> 00:04:21.849 angels. I thought of Moroni. He was the first one to come to 00:04:21.921 --> 00:04:26.585 mind. Do you sometimes feel like Moroni? Like you got to go tell 00:04:26.658 --> 00:04:30.957 this 14 year old kid the same thing four times. And I don't 00:04:31.030 --> 00:04:35.547 mean to like, I don't mean to be sacrilegious about it. I just 00:04:35.620 --> 00:04:40.211 kind of caught a little sense of humor in it. Like, do you feel 00:04:40.284 --> 00:04:44.728 like Moroni who goes and tells the same message over and over 00:04:44.801 --> 00:04:49.538 and over again? Um, or how about the angel that stopped Laman and 00:04:49.610 --> 00:04:54.055 Lemuel from beating up on their little brothers? I can't even 00:04:54.128 --> 00:04:58.136 tell you how many, how many fights I stopped between my 00:04:58.209 --> 00:05:02.508 girls today, or maybe more like the angel Gabriel, who told 00:05:02.581 --> 00:05:06.734 Elizabeth that she was gonna have a son deliver some good 00:05:06.807 --> 00:05:11.179 news, right? Or and then, and then he went, and he told Mary 00:05:11.252 --> 00:05:15.769 that she was gonna have a son. And that was probably shock and 00:05:15.842 --> 00:05:20.287 awe that was probably a little overwhelming for Mary, anyway, 00:05:20.360 --> 00:05:24.732 so it just kind of made me smart for a second, this Aaron of 00:05:24.805 --> 00:05:29.104 angels, and then I read it again, right? They know that the 00:05:29.177 --> 00:05:33.476 Aaron of Angel. Is given to women, and they desire to be on 00:05:33.549 --> 00:05:37.629 God's errand, to love his children and minister to them, 00:05:37.702 --> 00:05:42.292 which is the spirit that comes along with that line in the hymn 00:05:42.365 --> 00:05:46.883 that you're that we're here to love each other and minister to 00:05:46.956 --> 00:05:51.401 each other, and then to teach them the doctrines of salvation 00:05:51.474 --> 00:05:56.137 that is part of the errand that we're on right to teach them the 00:05:56.210 --> 00:06:00.873 doctrines of salvation, to call them to repentance, to save them 00:06:00.946 --> 00:06:05.464 in perilous circumstances, to guide them in the performance of 00:06:05.537 --> 00:06:09.253 his work, to deliver his messages. So the errand of 00:06:09.326 --> 00:06:13.115 angel, the errand of angels, isn't just sunshine and 00:06:13.188 --> 00:06:17.851 rainbows. It's work. We have to actually do stuff anyway. So you 00:06:17.924 --> 00:06:22.296 can recognize women who are grateful to be a daughter of God 00:06:22.369 --> 00:06:26.813 by their attitude. They want to do these things. Moving on to 00:06:26.886 --> 00:06:31.404 number three, you can recognize women who are grateful to be a 00:06:31.477 --> 00:06:35.412 daughter of God by their abilities. They fulfill their 00:06:35.484 --> 00:06:39.856 divine potential and magnify their God given gifts, they are 00:06:39.929 --> 00:06:44.083 capable strong women who bless families, serve others and 00:06:44.155 --> 00:06:48.746 understand that the glory of God is intelligence. And that last 00:06:48.819 --> 00:06:53.482 bit is quoted from Doctrine and Covenants. 9336 and I don't want 00:06:53.555 --> 00:06:57.198 to misinterpret what she's saying here, so if I do 00:06:57.271 --> 00:07:02.008 apologies, sounds to me, though, like she's saying that you'll be 00:07:02.080 --> 00:07:06.817 able to tell because of how they work. So she said you'll be able 00:07:06.890 --> 00:07:11.407 to tell by their abilities. And the follow up to that makes it 00:07:11.480 --> 00:07:15.998 sound to me like you'll be able to tell by how they work, what 00:07:16.071 --> 00:07:20.661 they do, what they actually do, versus what they're capable of. 00:07:20.734 --> 00:07:25.470 So someone who is grateful to be a daughter of God works hard and 00:07:25.543 --> 00:07:30.061 sometimes does more than what she's capable or what she thinks 00:07:30.134 --> 00:07:34.506 she's capable of, versus someone who may not be grateful and 00:07:34.579 --> 00:07:39.169 takes advantage of the system. I hope that makes sense. Lastly, 00:07:39.242 --> 00:07:43.687 number four, and I'm going to quickly place a trigger warning 00:07:43.760 --> 00:07:47.986 right here, if you are, if you are struggling with or have 00:07:48.059 --> 00:07:52.576 struggled with and aren't quite ready yet. If you've struggled 00:07:52.649 --> 00:07:57.313 with infertility and you're not quite ready to hear about it, by 00:07:57.386 --> 00:08:01.830 all means, skip ahead a little bit. But please know that this 00:08:01.903 --> 00:08:06.567 quote is relevant to you in the best possible way. It's still it 00:08:06.640 --> 00:08:11.230 still may be difficult, but it is relevant to you in the in the 00:08:11.303 --> 00:08:15.966 best possible way. You are seen and you are heard. She said, You 00:08:16.039 --> 00:08:20.411 can recognize women who are grateful to be a daughter of God 00:08:20.484 --> 00:08:24.054 by their reverence for motherhood, even when that 00:08:24.127 --> 00:08:28.281 blessing has been withheld from them for a time, in those 00:08:28.354 --> 00:08:32.798 circumstances, their righteous influence can be a blessing in 00:08:32.871 --> 00:08:37.389 the lives of children they love. Their exemplary teachings can 00:08:37.462 --> 00:08:41.761 echo the voice of a faithful home and resonate truth in the 00:08:41.834 --> 00:08:46.133 hearts of children who need another witness, whether you're 00:08:46.206 --> 00:08:50.796 a mother or not, you can have an influence on children, and you 00:08:50.869 --> 00:08:55.168 can still have a reverence for motherhood, whether you have 00:08:55.241 --> 00:08:59.030 experienced it or are experiencing it. And I'm going 00:08:59.103 --> 00:09:03.329 to take a little bit of a leap here and say that those who 00:09:03.402 --> 00:09:07.555 have, those of us who have struggled with infertility, or 00:09:07.628 --> 00:09:11.490 who do struggle with infertility, are very, very well 00:09:11.563 --> 00:09:15.571 aware of the importance of motherhood, sometimes, in my 00:09:15.643 --> 00:09:20.234 opinion, Even more so than those who have not struggled what we 00:09:20.307 --> 00:09:25.043 are aware on a level that causes pain, and that is a pain that is 00:09:25.116 --> 00:09:28.832 so deep that Only our willingness to begin to learn 00:09:28.905 --> 00:09:33.277 how to use the atonement can help ease that pain, and that's 00:09:33.350 --> 00:09:38.013 why I loved this quote so much. She recognized that, and instead 00:09:38.086 --> 00:09:42.822 of spending the entire paragraph talking about women will want to 00:09:42.895 --> 00:09:47.559 be mothers and women will become mothers. That's not at all what 00:09:47.632 --> 00:09:52.003 she talked about. She talked about reverencing motherhood as 00:09:52.076 --> 00:09:54.700 the divine role and gift that it is. 00:09:56.500 --> 00:10:02.700 But she also talked about how I. We can influence all of those 00:10:02.700 --> 00:10:06.900 around us, whether we're their moms or not. She didn't limit 00:10:06.900 --> 00:10:15.480 it. Limit it. She didn't limit it to our own children. She also 00:10:15.480 --> 00:10:20.100 said, daughters of God know that it is the nurturing nature of 00:10:20.100 --> 00:10:23.420 women that can bring everlasting blessings, and they live to 00:10:23.420 --> 00:10:28.040 cultivate this divine attribute. It's not just about being a mom, 00:10:28.400 --> 00:10:35.480 it is about developing the nurturing nature of women. I 00:10:35.480 --> 00:10:38.300 want to go ahead and end today's episode with the quote that 00:10:38.300 --> 00:10:41.680 brought us here in the first place. Elder Christofferson 00:10:41.740 --> 00:10:45.040 quoted her, but I'm going to read the talk. I'm going to read 00:10:45.040 --> 00:10:47.860 the quote directly from her talk, because there was a 00:10:47.860 --> 00:10:53.620 sentence that he left out that I loved. She said, women of God 00:10:53.620 --> 00:10:58.540 can never be like women of the world. The world has enough 00:10:58.600 --> 00:11:02.820 women who are tough. We need women who are tender. There are 00:11:02.820 --> 00:11:07.680 enough women who are coarse. We need women who are kind. There 00:11:07.680 --> 00:11:11.880 are enough women who are rude. We need women who are refined. 00:11:12.600 --> 00:11:16.080 We have enough women of fame and fortune. We need more women of 00:11:16.080 --> 00:11:21.140 faith. We have enough greed. We need more goodness. We have 00:11:21.140 --> 00:11:25.160 enough vanity, we need more virtue. We have enough 00:11:25.160 --> 00:11:29.960 popularity, we need more purity. So what kind of a woman are you 00:11:29.960 --> 00:11:34.640 going to be? I'm going to be the kind of woman who is constantly 00:11:34.640 --> 00:11:42.460 in a state of work in progress. I'm going to try and become the 00:11:42.580 --> 00:11:54.160 kind of woman who is strong and tender, good and refined. I got 00:11:54.160 --> 00:11:57.760 some work to do on that one, a woman of faith. That's the kind 00:11:57.760 --> 00:12:02.940 of woman I want to be. I feel like this lifetime. In this 00:12:02.940 --> 00:12:06.720 lifetime, I'm going to be a constant work in progress, one 00:12:06.720 --> 00:12:10.740 little piece at a time, right? Anyway, thank you so much for 00:12:10.740 --> 00:12:13.500 being here today. I appreciate your time. Keep learning, keep 00:12:13.500 --> 00:12:16.440 growing, and be of good cheer until next time you.